Building a family can be easier for some than others. Traditional pregnancy isn’t always an option for several reasons. However, there are still viable ways to form a family. Adoption and Surrogacy are two common ways to bring new life into the picture. Both of these methods share several similarities, but differ in a few key ways. In order for parents to make the best decision, it is important for them to understand which method fits their personal preferences the most.
A distinguishing factor between surrogacy and adoption is the genetic link. A gestational surrogate has no relation to the child she carries. The child is formed through embryo transfer and is related to the intended parents. This genetic link allows for a biological connection which is why many families decide to choose surrogacy over adoption.
Many families also choose surrogacy so that their features will be displayed in their child. Surrogacy allows one parent, even sometimes both, to be genetically related.
Both processes can be lengthy and vary in duration. The average surrogacy journey is anywhere from 16-22 months, with pregnancy being the longest step. There are more unknowns in the adoption timeline and it ranges from a year to three years.
Surrogacy may be a better fit for you if you want more certainty in your timeline.
The surrogacy process can feel more promising than the adoption process, because the legal contracts are signed ahead of the embryo transfer. Since adoption contracts are not signed until after birth, the carrier might change her mind about parenting the child. Surrogates don’t have biological connections to the child and are less likely to feel attached. While some intended families allow surrogates to be present in the child’s life, the surrogates have no legal rights over the child. This allows the intended family to have more control.
There is less of a desire for a surrogate to stay in contact with the carried child. Biological connection adds a relational complexity to adoption. Many birth mothers desire to stay a part of their child’s life in some form. This can be frustrating for the families who adopted. Birth parents also might not come from a stable, healthy environment which could lead to the child having psychological conditions. Surrogacy allows intended families to have more control as everything is written in the contract before pregnancy begins.
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