Embarking on a surrogacy journey is an act of remarkable generosity and love. As you navigate this path, there will be moments when your personal journey intersects with your professional life. One significant intersection point is the conversation with your employer about your pregnancy. This blog offers some practical advice and examples on how to approach this conversation, emphasizing the balance between personal comfort, professional relationships, and the specific dynamics of your work environment.
Sharing that You're Pregnant
Whether or not you choose to disclose the specifics of your surrogacy journey, informing your employer about your pregnancy is often a necessary step. This is especially crucial if your pregnancy impacts your role or if you need time off for medical appointments. You could initiate the conversation by saying, “I wanted to let you know that I’m pregnant. I’ll need to occasionally adjust my schedule for medical appointments, but I’m committed to making sure my responsibilities are covered during those times.”
Advantages of Sharing Your Surrogacy Journey
Transparency about your surrogacy journey can foster understanding and support from your employer and colleagues. It allows them to fully comprehend your situation, particularly regarding your need for recovery time post-birth rather than traditional parental leave. You might explain, “I’m helping another family welcome a child through surrogacy. After the delivery, I’ll need some time off to recover – typically about 4 weeks after a vaginal delivery, or 6 weeks if a cesarean section is required.”
Considerations When Keeping Surrogacy Private
Despite the growing acceptance and understanding of surrogacy, some workplaces might still harbor misconceptions or biases. If you feel that sharing your surrogacy journey may result in negative reactions or discomfort, it could be more beneficial to simply disclose that you’re pregnant, without specifying that it’s a surrogacy pregnancy.
Choosing the Right Approach
The decision to share your surrogacy journey should take into account your workplace dynamics and your personal comfort level. Your comfort and wellbeing always comes first.
Knowing Your Rights and Policies
Regardless of your decision, it’s essential to understand your rights as an employee and your company’s leave policies. Surrogate mothers are usually entitled to the same maternity rights as traditional mothers, but policies may vary by company. Being informed will help ensure that your rights are protected and your needs met.
Remember that you’re not alone in this journey. Love & Kindness Surrogacy, along with your own network of support, can provide guidance and advice to help you navigate these conversations. We’re here to help you address potential concerns and questions from your employer, allowing you to feel confident and empowered.